Reality Bytes: Writing Through Dark: Writing Wrongs

Writing Through Dark: Writing Wrongs

When I first started writing, the
internet it became a substitute for human interaction. Aside from Pepe, the
computer had become my next best friend.  Certainly better than any
therapist I have ever seen. Writing through dark helped me to clarify and
organize my thoughts.

My computer does not ask me stupid
questions or blame me for taking too long to spit just the right

It does not mind if I stutter, take a break or tend to more
pressing matters. The internet was simply another way to escape from the madness
that surrounds me.

Before I knew to how to attach formatted, edited,
spell checked versions of documents, I would often begin writing in cyberspace
only to find that I addressed it incorrectly, or worse, copied the very last
person I would want to know exactly how I feel.

There have been times
when I have accidentally hit send a little too soon. When I review some of my
past journal entries written online, it is easy to see the raw emotion that
pours out of my soul into the physical world. There have been countless times I
have found myself so completely caught up in the writing process that I get
stuck to the keyboard for hours (sometimes even days) and yet there I am—-
asleep at the keyboard— again!

Writing “live” can be dangerous—it is far
too easy to come off as a raving lunatic who cannot hold one train of thought
long enough to keep the web browser from timing out!

If only I could
retrieve some of the messages that hit cyberspace…

Will I ever be able
to coexist peacefully? Play well with others? I still work at my own pace—
sometimes in my own world, always in my own head… I like to think I might
flourish in some other man’s world and tell myself I could exist in some other
reality—but those who see through me know this is my last defense, and however
sad, I must believe that if I am to go on.

However, be warned that I may,
someday, somewhere, decide to stick around for a while. Could you be my
neighbor? Would you be my friend?

Could you? Could I? Can I ever stop
running and being afraid? What must I do, what I must learn, or who must I
become to make you believe that such social grace and honest beauty have
always come naturally to me?

When will this act ever subside? I developed
an entire persona based on fear alone. How very sad. The cheerleader that never
was. The child that never knew safety, peace, or security. A woman who existed
in a world of silence— until now, I suppose.

Somehow, I must learn to
embrace the fear. The fear of being discovered for the person that I am rather
than the person I often pretend to be.

Regardless of the mask we put on
when we go out in public, we all feel insecure, lonely, isolated, and afraid at
times. Unfortunately, for me, I feel that way more often than not. I live with
the kind of self-doubt that most people outgrow in early adolescence. The older
I got, the more isolated I felt. Shouldn’t I have outgrown this by

So now I have to become the person I used to be. The person I was
meant to be. The person who existed long before the realities of life set in.
Someone with hope, someone with a purpose. Someone who believed woman who
existed long before the shadow of fear and failure ruled my every waking moment
and took over the sleepless nights.

Yes, I can.


Fear of believing that I deserved to be loved and
never finding it. A human being entitled freedoms, and a woman who knows how to
make choices. I am already stronger than I ever wanted to be.

I was
blessed with strength.

Strength! Who the fuck wanted strength? Who wanted
fear? Who wanted freedom???? There are people who love me– they may not know it
yet– or may have forgotten me by now, but I need to stay put and live within my
own skin again for a while just to see how feels.

Just stop

I have been challenged in ways that most people cannot even
begin or understand– and for me I must accept that there simply is no justice.
So as I am, there is nothing that can replace what I have lost, not inside
myself. I do not believe in revenge.

How ironic. How bazaar. Tragic. No
one else cares. Who gives a shit? Why seek revenge for its own sake? How would
that help? Nothing can replace what has been lost, not within myself.

what if you are right??? What if–IF– it is possible to let go of my anger?
What will become of all that rage and turmoil I carry around with every waking
moment? Can I exist peacefully within my own body? And what about the pain? I
mean the hard the hard-core physical pain that hits me when I am most
vulnerable? Can I live with the pain?

Can you promise me that it will
have been worth it in the end? And, what if, after all is said done, I find
myself to be an old woman with no friends, no ties, just a worn out memory of
myself as I used to be—or who thought I might become. An old woman who lived far
too long and too hard to realize that her act was done one-half a century

Can you make it all worthwhile? Can you live with such

Can I ever recapture enough of my former self to become a
sexual being rather than innuendo? Can that person coexist in the same body that
has brought me so much pain? Will anyone ever sift through the grime to find me?
Will they ultimately feel it was just a waste of time? Will he hate me for it?
Will he hate women as a result?

Can I ever learn to accept my physical
pain without feeling compromised as a woman? Can I ever learn to accept my
emotional mind without feeling compromised as a human being?

Do not tell
anyone, but I can remember what it was like to enjoy sex. At what point can I
allow myself to long for the sensation of human touch without being too
optimistic? I don’t want to get addicted. Sex will never be enough for me. I
dream of loosing myself in a man’s body. I dream about complete and absolute

I shall find mediocrity! Keep your labels interpretations and
judgments to yourself. Control your need to soothe my fragile psyche or your
need to “cure” me. I must find mediocrity. There in, I hope, lies the self. The
everyday, the lull, the common person: rhythmic sanity and flattened affect.
Dulled emotions and satisfaction. Satisfied, dull, boring, everyday.
God—please!!! Where do I sign up?

Yes— okay— sometimes, it scares me to
be so utterly alone, but what purpose does that serve? Even I know how
despicable self-pity is in others and in myself. Especially for someone “like”
me– whatever that means! Great—so not only am I sad, but now I am feeling
guilty too. And ashamed. And embarrassed. And Fear. And

Sometimes I wish others could understand the silent,
peaceful, uncomplicated absolution that dawns with acceptance and

My goals have become so convoluted, yet here I sit, 13 years
later, and my computer is still my best friend. My search for mediocrity
continues. I am still looking for comfortable safety and a place of solitude
before I can fulfill my “destiny”… to become whatever it is I was meant to be.
Before I was reduced to nothing more than a shell of a person beaten down the
Powers That Beat.

A journey on the road towards (Maslow’s)
self-actualization. Is it too late to build the strong foundations I lacked as a
child? To feel secure enough in my physical surroundings and trust that my most
basic needs will be met. Can I successfully transition into a world of unknowns
without any understanding of the world as it is?

Maybe others have taken
this path before me– or maybe someday, someone might inadvertently wander into
this sanctuary I call home. A place where nothing seems as it but exactly the
way it is supposed to be.

Look at us– who we are, what we do, and how we
survive… all the people everywhere… All of us with limitless potential yet
none of us know it– irreverent disregard for what is real and complete
disrespect for the rules that have thrust upon us.

This is the easy
part– restating economists and social scientists of days gone by– so it is
here that I can rest my head and my tired fingers. Why do I feel this shit? I
actually *feel* this shit. As I sit and write (and eventually hit delete) I am
bound to the streams of consciousness– irate bouts of ranting and raving–
knowing how easy it is for people to silence such carrying-ons.

writing my first piece ever– a poem about motherhood, childhood, and the
woman-child, my mother tried to have me committed. What a reality check! At 22,
1 put side my fear and wrote a simple poem for myself, to myself. It was
straightforward, simple and direct, and almost landed me in an insane asylum.
Are my words that dangerous? Are my feelings so far beyond the norm that I need
to be removed from society altogether?

Yes, with a copy of my journal in
hand, my mother’s shrink showed up at my door-step to express her “grave
concern” about my perception of reality. Not the first time, and it definitely
would not be the last. As the years went by, I learned that my words would be
used against me as a testimony to my madness. Only after years of therapy have I
come to understand that it was not my words that were so dangerous, it was my
ability to use them correctly. Perhaps it was not my sanity that should have
been called into question…

I called my first piece, “On Not Being Able
to Write.” So simple, so eloquent, and so honest. After that little encounter, I
learned about secrecy, symbolism, and self-censorship. I learned to write in
riddles, live in puzzles, and think in circles. It kept others out– but left me
afraid. Afraid to be seen for who I am. Afraid of how my words were being
received and how they would be interpreted. And now that things have come full
circle, I am making a welcome return to honesty and a much needed reprieve from
my riddles.

Let there be boundaries. Let them be impenetrable, secure,
and bold. Obvious boundaries– this is my path– and you may not come with me.
You must learn to find your own!

I think I shall buy a
paint-by-numbers kit at the toy store. Simple. Impossible-but only because I can
not paint!!!!


Donnette Davis said…

This had me captivated… an indepth and obviously painstaking insight into a magnificent soul with whom I identify only too well…

I could be your neighbour, and yes I could call you friend.. I do call you friend, and I am blessed to have crossed paths with you.

You go Angel… this is just the beginning of your journey into reaching even greater heights…

With much love and the deepest respect

D x

Sunday, July 26, 2009 6:37:00 AM

Mya said…

This is where I find strength in my darkest hours.

Thank you, Elyssa

Mya (@almostvisible)

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Sunday, August 30, 2009 3:18:00 PM

nickjr01 said…

i really like this… i could be your neighbor, or ya roommate but i would always be ya friend….

Friday, January 01, 2010 3:01:00 PM

Elyssa D’Educrat said…

To learn FBI facts were nothing but lies. My signal is fading. Learn from me. The only thing that keeps me on the radar is F-bombs. I may be the spawn of Satan or the omen child my mother sees as her cross to bear; but I want to believe in something. Justice for All. I am here now to tell my story. Just me, @ElyssaD

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